Blogging ByChoice

About ByChoice





1. an act or instance of choosing; selection: Her choice of a computer was made after months of research. His parents were not happy with his choice of friends.



“Now this is a story all about how My life got flipped turned upside down… “

I was in a rut in life overall. I was stressed out about … well… everything.

My personal life seemed to be in the dumps, my financials were lacking, love life sucked, health and fitness were barely hanging on by a tread, my relationships with friends and family were sparse and overall I just didn’t feel well. I would say depressed but I am not sure if that’s the stage I was at.

I was at work one day texting a girl that I was seeing at the time. She worked from home and was pretty successful. I had (still have some) envy for the life that she lives, but this isn’t the reason for starting the blog.

She politely and enthusiastically asked me how my day was going and I just -unleashed-. I was in a bad mood because I felt an employee disrespected me with their actions at work, though it wasn’t really a big deal I was just allowing all my stress to boil up and overflow. I started talking about how grumpy I was; I started my day off by being splashed by not 1, not 2 but 3 cars on my way to the bus stop. Climbed on the bus and realized I had forgotten my wallet. I needed to walk back home and at this point, it was too late for me to make it to the next bus so I had to cab to work, there goes $20. When I finally reached work I was hit with a barrage of questions from employees, which I mean it’s not their fault at all but again I was just dealing with a lot of crap and I become very frustrated. I moved people around and got everything started I walked into my office opened up my gym bag and noticed I left my lunch at home. PERFECT…. We had plans that evening and honestly I very little desire to be around anyone after work. I asked her if it was ok if I cancelled due to not wanting to be a grumpy mess around her. She told me that it was fine but then offered me probably the best advice I have ever been given.
She said politely “Why don’t you choose to be happy the rest of the day?”.  She told me to put on a fake smile and tell myself I was making a choice to enjoy the rest of my day and my soon to be quiet evening alone.
The absolute simplicity of what she told me has echoed in my life from that point on. It’s become a grounding mechanism for myself now. When I feel I am getting stressed out or upset or I am at all in my head in an overly negative way, I take a deep breath and consciously tell myself that I am in control of how I choose to view the situation I am in.
The empowerment of knowing you have a choice in your own happiness is so simple yet… somehow I had missed making that connection.
A choice…. to just …. be happy…

I have given a lot of thought about CHOICE in life. Everything we do is a choice. Not all situations that happen to us are by choice but, how we choose to move forward IS.


I can honestly say that by starting this blog, I am making a choice to try and better my life while attempting to impact others. I have no idea where this journey will take me but, I know be it failure or success it will be 100% because of my choices.

Please take this Journey with me ByChoice 😉 and subscribe to the blog.

I look forward to improving, growing and sharing every detail I can with you along the way.